Over the years, I've been a caregiver a few different times. But each time my roles were very different.
I've been a pinch hitter when subbing for my sister to help my mom. Mom had a new ileostomy and there was much to learn to care for her needs. Looking back, the biggest challenge, however, was overnight. Caregiving doesn’t just happen during daylight hours!
I've been the facilitator for my father-in-law after he had a stroke. I did the research, placement and financial stuff to get him settled in a care facility, then in and out of the hospital and finally in yet another care facility that worked much better for his needs.
And now,I'm in a more traditional caregiving roll for my husband. He is working through new therapies for an autoimmune disease. Previously I've provided care for him as an encourager and listener during dark days of anxiety and depression which have taken a back seat to everyday needs.
Each role was different and presented unique challenges. Each one was emotionally if not physically draining. While encourager/listener has been the most distressing, traditional caregiver, my current role, is the most physically exhausting while being the most straight-forward.
Each role was different and presented unique challenges. Each one was emotionally if not physically draining. While encourager/listener has been the most distressing, traditional caregiver, my current role, is the most physically exhausting while being the most straight-forward.
Providing from-scratch meals that accommodate newly discovered food allergies, handling meds/supplements, providing enough beverages, clean dishes and clothes as well as basic hygiene and comfort needs - it's relentless. Functioning on very little sleep and then working a full time job (thankfully from home) - it feels like a treadmill or a hamster wheel. Before having a plan from a new doctor, the uncertainty of "what to do next" was incredibly stressful.
The first two roles taught me some valuable lessons that have come in handy for the third.
Do you find yourself in an unexpected caregiving role? I have much more to share, so stay tuned!
Do you find yourself in an unexpected caregiving role? I have much more to share, so stay tuned!
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